Take Yourself Out to Dinner (Yes, Alone & Proud)

Let’s talk about something bold, underrated, and surprisingly healing: taking yourself out to dinner. No awkward small talk. No checking if the other person is ready to order. No splitting the bill or pretending you didn’t really want dessert. Just you, your appetite, and your peace.

The other night, I took myself to my favorite Vietnamese spot here in the city—yes, solo—and let me tell you, it was exactly what my soul (and stomach) needed.

I ordered the classics: fresh spring rolls that were so fresh they practically whispered “self-love” with every bite, and a steaming bowl of pho that felt like a warm hug from the inside out. But the real plot twist? I tried Vietnamese egg coffee for the first time. I know—sounds weird, right? But imagine the richest, silkiest latte you’ve ever had, topped with a sweet, cloud-like custard foam. Game. Changer.

And here’s the thing: I didn’t wait around for a date night or a friend to be free. I claimed the night for myself. No scrolling. No texting. Just me, my thoughts, my food, and the low hum of a restaurant filled with people who might’ve thought I was waiting for someone. (I wasn’t.)

So why does this matter?

The Hidden Power of Taking Yourself Out

1. It Builds Confidence.
   Walking into a restaurant alone might feel awkward at first, but by the end of the meal, you realize you don’t need anyone else to validate your presence. You belong there—just as you are.
2. It Deepens Self-Connection.
   When you’re not entertaining anyone else, you start listening to your own thoughts again. You slow down. You notice things. You reconnect with yourself—something so many of us are starving for.
3. It Feels Like Rebellion (in the best way).
   In a world where we’re taught to wait for someone to take us out or give us permission to enjoy the good things… taking yourself out is a full-blown act of rebellion. And I don’t know about you, but I’m all for rebellion that tastes like pho.
4. It Sets Standards.
   You’re showing the universe (and honestly, your subconscious) that you’re not settling. You’re not waiting to be chosen. You’re choosing yourself—again and again.

So the next time you’re craving something delicious, don’t wait for a plus-one. Be your own date. Romanticize it. Dress up. Order what you actually want. Try the weird coffee. And walk out of that place with the kind of quiet confidence that only comes from showing up for yourself.

Because when you learn to enjoy your own company, you raise the bar for everyone else.